New!!! With MIDDLE FINGER ACTION!!!

Yeah, so before I get back to talking about the NYC Comic-Con, I got into some trouble the other day for sticking my middle finger up at someone at my job. Yes, I know it was wrong and felt bad about it almost as soon as I did it, but this woman triggered a bit a of a flash fire of rage that I responded so quickly.

Basically, this woman, this carribean born black woman made a comment about black men in general. It was a combination of the context of what she was saying and the almost venomous inflection of her tone that triggered my response. Basically she was making a reference to the fact that when black men are in interracial relationships they take the scraps from the other races and that basically we have no standards. That's not what she said verbatim but that was the jist of it.

Now I'm not in an interracial relationship. I'm married to a black woman, a smart lovely, driven good hearted black woman. But I have dated outside my race in the past. In fact I have a preference for latinas, pretty much everyone who knows me at least a little knows this. I've dated exactly one white girl and probably will never do so again. Not because of the particular girl, but mostly because of the hassle of having to deal with a bunch of ignorant fuckwits outside of the actual relationship. It made her uncomfortable and to a certain extent made me uncomfortable as well as occasionally hopping mad. None of these women that I dated in my past were what I considered scraps. But still it was a sentiment about black men that she'd stated before in my presence and on this day it set me off and she recieved the middle finger for her trouble.

It was at that point that she threatened me with going down to HR and reporting me. I told her go ahead as long as she told them what was said to set me off, be my guest. She walked off in a huff and eventually went to HR. It became a THING that I'll try to detail a little later on, but in a nutshell, we both agreed that what she said was wrong and my reaction was wrong. For a while it seemed that it was my reaction that was going to be considered the more wrong (which honestly was going to piss me off more than the inciting incident) but that wasnt the case and our HR person was very down to earth and real (while still being the consumate professional) about hearing both sides, which incidentally involved a reshaping of the actual inciting comment from the woman, but that's niether here or there at this point.

Except that it makes her a big frakkin' liar, but WHATEVER.

Anyway, I promised not to do it again and apologies were made via Proxy of course, and that's that.

Next time... more cool comic-con stuff!!

Or not.